Jaycee Woods

Sometimes I need to practice writing similar things again to try to test different ways of expressing it. Often this leads to greater precision but also expansion by digging a little deeper and integrating.

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Men communicate their deepest emotions kinesthetically, by touch and action. Testosterone literally prevents men from verbalizing their strongest emotions in the moment they are being felt; he can’t speak as he can’t find the words. When a woman cuts her man off from physical intimacy (a caress, a hug, etc.) it is like cutting out his tongue and blaming him for not being able to speak.

Meanwhile a woman’s overreliance on verbal communication makes her deaf to his non-verbal expressions of love. Sometimes she just needs to shut up while he holds her to feel him communicate his strongest emotions via touch.

When a woman lacks the empathy to pick up on a man’s kinesthetic communication, she is vulnerable to being lied to by a bad man’s words when words often lie where actions are true. Her limiting her capacity to receive communication to the verbal leads to her rejecting silent good men for the honeyed words of a user.

IMHO, this is one of the main reasons that marriages fail. She craves emotional intimacy with him but at the same time she misses or rejects his strongest non-verbal emotional communication. After years of her neglecting his kinesthetic expressions of emotion, he stops communicating before he stops feeling.

Meanwhile while women often shrilly complain about her performing most household tasks, he understands such acts by her as kinesthetic expressions of love, of her caring for him and the family by bringing order and peace to life. As men tend to allocate tasks by merit not tradition, allowing a woman to do household tasks communicates that he recognizes her skill and talent; otherwise he would simply do those simple tasks well enough himself. Consider how jealous a woman would be if her man allowed another woman to care for him in that way; for example, see wives’ jealousy and feelings of being rejected over a mother-in-law who does domestic tasks for that wife’s husband.

Can’t men just learn to verbalize their emotions to meet a woman’s needs for verbal communication? No more than he can learn to fly by flapping his arms. Afterwards, when his strong emotions are less overwhelming, he can verbally communicate but then he is only sharing a pale shade of his emotion, which is less than he thinks she deserves from him.

What if a woman doesn’t learn to understand a man’s kinesthetic mode of emotional communication? She will not feel and understand the strength of his love for her. Too often now, such women find themselves divorced, alone, regretful of loss, while pretending everything is okay, but rates of female unhappiness, mental illness, and suicide increase without the care and protection a man in love offers her.

But she don’t need no man? You go girl…far far away as wounded men embrace becoming a monk, a cad, or a doormat, but regretfully no longer a loving partner.